How on earth can you get along with someone when they have been trained to believe that they are superior to you and you are the inferior one? They only have contempt and disdain for the lowly scapegoat.
And it is not always the older child that is scapegoated. In my case I am the baby of the family and I am the scapegoat.
To me the Golden Child is a bad joke. They are delusional and can't stand on their own two feet. My sister who is ten years older than me got everything and I got nothing. Is she any better off for it? Not really. She has a house that should have been paid off over 20 years ago but financed against the equity. I believe they also have debts up to their necks. They are now basically waiting for my 91 year old mother to die so they can collect the inheritence.
The whole thing is really pathetic. They have no decency or self-respect. In that way they are the inferior ones.
"How on earth can you get along with someone when they have been trained to believe that they are superior to you and you are the inferior one? "
Will... you get forced into a role that complies with the family system.
But once you know about the dynamics you can step out. I know how much that hurts, but the only thing you can do is to make your life better and find peace with your past. Not saying you have to approve or justify anything... but sometimes you are born into a family that doesn't value you... and there is nothing you can do about them.
I agree that you get forced into a role but that doesn't mean that that role fits you.
The role is to suit the narcissist, not you.
Everyone's situation is different but for me personally I never got along with my sister not even as a young child. We are just too different. She is complacent and a coward. I am outspoken and a fighter.
Besides we were always pitted against one another so that is really not going to help build a strong bond. She was always competing against me to one up and in some ways she still does this.
Things really never change. I reached out to her to try to have some kind of relationship but got betrayed for the last time.
I really don't care anymore. I don't respect her at all. She has no morals or integrity and she can't be trusted. I can't have a relationship with someone like that.
PS I'd have to ask you a question. I had to sign up to reply and it asked for my name but I really don't like putting my name on the internet. I'm kind of a private person. Do I have to put my name on here? I will try to see if I can put a nickname like on that other place.
How on earth can you get along with someone when they have been trained to believe that they are superior to you and you are the inferior one? They only have contempt and disdain for the lowly scapegoat.
And it is not always the older child that is scapegoated. In my case I am the baby of the family and I am the scapegoat.
To me the Golden Child is a bad joke. They are delusional and can't stand on their own two feet. My sister who is ten years older than me got everything and I got nothing. Is she any better off for it? Not really. She has a house that should have been paid off over 20 years ago but financed against the equity. I believe they also have debts up to their necks. They are now basically waiting for my 91 year old mother to die so they can collect the inheritence.
The whole thing is really pathetic. They have no decency or self-respect. In that way they are the inferior ones.
"How on earth can you get along with someone when they have been trained to believe that they are superior to you and you are the inferior one? "
Will... you get forced into a role that complies with the family system.
But once you know about the dynamics you can step out. I know how much that hurts, but the only thing you can do is to make your life better and find peace with your past. Not saying you have to approve or justify anything... but sometimes you are born into a family that doesn't value you... and there is nothing you can do about them.
I agree that you get forced into a role but that doesn't mean that that role fits you.
The role is to suit the narcissist, not you.
Everyone's situation is different but for me personally I never got along with my sister not even as a young child. We are just too different. She is complacent and a coward. I am outspoken and a fighter.
Besides we were always pitted against one another so that is really not going to help build a strong bond. She was always competing against me to one up and in some ways she still does this.
Things really never change. I reached out to her to try to have some kind of relationship but got betrayed for the last time.
I really don't care anymore. I don't respect her at all. She has no morals or integrity and she can't be trusted. I can't have a relationship with someone like that.
PS I'd have to ask you a question. I had to sign up to reply and it asked for my name but I really don't like putting my name on the internet. I'm kind of a private person. Do I have to put my name on here? I will try to see if I can put a nickname like on that other place.
As far as I know you can use a pen name.
You could also choose "teddy bear" or others things. Seems that this platform allows you to be creative with your "name".
Ha Ha! I'm not really the teddy bear type.
I'm more Fluffy like a poodle.
Poodles are very lovely too.... and one of the most intelligent breeds out there.
Aren't you quite the charmer.
I will tell Fluffy what you said about her. My Toy Poodle that is.
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Thanks for the star blessing 🤗
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